Saturday, November 16, 2013

RECOVERY

RECOVERY
About 20 days before my seventy-fourth birthday, I got an email that had a great impact upon my core sense of self.   This is what I have taken from the experience.

It has been my practice for a while to get up in the morning with a fairly optimistic, positive, but realistic attitude about who I am and what I am doing.  For a good part of my life, it has been my experience to observe that while I was not at the pinnacle in any area, I could hold my own in a range of experiences.  Cooking, trip planning, photos, storytelling, etc. were a few areas that I counted myself in the top third while spelling, sewing, and flower arrangements were at the bottom.   I had tricked myself into believing that I had a tribe that when needed, could help me grow by pointing out other ways in which I could present myself or my creativity. I listen and give good consideration to comments that are constructive or meant to help.   It took me a long time to share my stories and even longer to share my photos though I have been published in both since high school.  

I am aware that when you put yourself out there, not everyone is going to accept what you create as good and might even not like it. If you want to create, show up, be seen, you will get your ass kicked.  It takes courage and while in writing and photo, I think I am a storyteller; I accept and admit that many have better technical skills and techniques.  I am ok about anything said about my products but this email was about me.  Cheap shots from the cheap seats presented as coming from an anonymous crowd.  It took the wind out of me and sent me scrambling to my cave for it felt mean and intended to hurt.

As it was, a prior commitment made me get back on the writing horse and I was forced to move through “not enough” to “I can do it” and “who do you think you are” and to get out of my own self-pity and back to ...some people will never like your or what you write.  

When you are creative and take a picture either with words or the lens, you are vulnerable.  Fear takes over and piles fuel to your self-doubt. My little inner child grew up thinking I was a mistake and stupid, so when a cannon ball hits you, the little one starts to scream... run, hide, protect yourself, join the foreign legion, etc. that person is right and that is how EVERYONE see you.

I have just been through a rugged weight loss process where I ate 500-600 calories a day for 40 days and lost about 22 pounds for a total loss since I started being aware of my food of 30 pounds.  I am still a chunky person and at this age my skin is not as supple so ... to help me get on with my creative process, I literally took my clothing off and I wrote naked. I started with the Haiku and then other stuff and finally the article.

I care about what people think. I see you and hear you that praise and don’t like what I create, but naked or not, I am going to create and for today, I am fully clothed.

2 comments:

JoAnn said...

So sorry to hear that you've been having a difficult time. Hope you know that you are very important to many people, and glad you're not letting this keep you down.

Anonymous said...

I am much better at giving advice than taking my own still, it's hard to ignore such unkind words....you have have a profound impact on so many people's lives over the years. I still find your advice and guidance in my head even now, 8 years later :) Please focus on all the good you have done and let this negative person fall by the wayside...All the best to you always! Elaine

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