Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Notes to myself (SB)

       After just about a week, I have had some insight as to some simple changes in perspective that can be a tool for creating a balance.  Staying with the moment to moment living is much more difficult than I thought.  When something occurs, I see the situation and player but also a bag of history that is either positive or negative.  That Judgment shades how I react and drags me in the drama or script of past conversations.  I can see this much more clearly when I replay conversations with people that I have less than pleasant history with and it is particularly true when the heat of a former encounter was intense.

        Another light bulb was that it is not easy to have a good pulse on what I  KNOW and don’t KNOW.When I am present - focused mindfully and living with compassion for myself and others… life flows and there is a true sense of living in the present moment.

        When there is a connection to others, strangers, friend, family…there is quality of loving kindness and emphatic neurons fire when we connect. 

         Delusion, speculating, clinging to the past is such a waste of time and causes the lost of a connection to the here and now.  It also can be an excuses for not living awake and alive.

         Setting boundaries is a key to taking the project out of living.  No means No… and that helps with priorities and knowledge that at any given second we are best we can be.
 
          Insufficient time is an illusion… there is always enough time to do what is important.  Focus on what is important to reduce desolation and foster equanimity.

          Without strategic renewal – meditation or pause.. we move depleted and scattered into the next situation rather than bringing our best.   It is the dust of the last encounter that fogs up the new


          Responding too quickly has created an appearance of reacting  which has led to needing to go back and repair… Writing an emails and waiting an hour before sending or send it to myself and see how it sets my reduce to eliminate the need to restep.   Restep and repair takes time from moving forward.

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