SHARING

For the most part, I don't like presents. There is something about making a list and then worrying that you have forgotten someone and then going out and trying to buy something to help you check off the name on the list, that makes all not about giving but about letting someone know you have them on your list. It isn't that I don't want to go buy something, but what does anyone need. Many of my friends are becoming minimalist and once the house is decorated or their drawers full, something has to go if something is brought in to the home. OK, if someone needs a coat, I would get it for them or contribute to the purchase etc.
I still get a few cards from people who don't purge the list, two year no card back...off with them. And I get a few cards with letters about what is happening in their lives and that is nice. I don't put the cards up so folks see that I get cards and then toss them after Christmas, or save them and then toss them.. no mater what happens, eventually they are tossed. Most folks buy a box of card that probably reflects their personality or if you turn it over, you may have an idea that they are "successful" and can buy the $100 a box cards. No matter... they come in.. they are looked at..and they are tossed. Presents are now "re gifted"... how thoughtful. I am purging my house and what do you do with the 4 foot wooden fork and spoon that is down in the basement.. who do I re gift that to. I look at the folks around me with a closet and drawers full of stuff... I feel lucky to have a warm coat, clean underwear etc. do I need or want more stuff. Presents have more to do with money and stuff that you can easily give but to me sharing is the really heart of the matter. sharing my energy, humor, and good karma is a personal thing I can give. Daily I say, "the merit for all good acts i do freely offer to all beings"... but sharing time, that is the most precious. To come to be with another, without an agenda, without a task, without a duty list - to just sit and share...to pick up the phone and call just to chat.. how are you.. I was thinking of you that is the jewel... but the usual way... we were meaning to call you..but time just slipped by so you make a list and send a card or buy another gift to be re gifted to let someone know you are thinking about them, but not enough to step into their life.